The Fat Tax

by Marzipan on August 30, 2010 · 14 comments

I linked it yesterday, but I felt that this topic deserved a little bit more discussion – did you all read MoPie’s post Nail Salon Charges $5 Fat Tax on Big Fat Deal? You should probably start there, but the distilled version is this:

Michele Fontville was charged an additional $5 for her manicure at Natural Nails Salon in DeKalb County, GA, because of the alleged extra damage that a fat person inflicts upon the manicure chairs. She questioned owner Kim Tran about the extra charge. Tran explained that it is very expensive to repair broken furniture, with the underlying emphasis on on how fat people cause more damage to the furniture that thin people. She refunded Fontville’s $5, but asked her not to return, as they could not longer serve her.

Ok.

Well, this story just breaks my heart – there is no real way to get around that. I cannot for one minute fathom how embarrassed and shattered Fontville must have felt upon hearing about her additional charge. As a fat woman, there are sometimes few activities that i can participate in that allow me to feel beautiful and feminine – and undeniably getting an manicure/pedicure is one of those things. It is such a wonderful treat, and may seem insignificant but it is a small act I can do to immediately pick up my spirits. I cannot fathom being told that I am so fat I am going to damage the furniture. I can understand, from the owner’s perspective, that this is a problem and that she is looking for the solution. However, I’m going to go on the record in stating: charging an additional fat tax is not the solution to the problem. Maybe buy sturdier chairs? Maybe be a little stricter in the ways that people utilize the furniture? Let’s think outside of the box, shall we?

What about people who swing around in those chairs with reckless abandon?

What about women whose children climb all over the chairs, marring their surface with the heels of their shoes?

What about the tax that I already feel as though I pay on a daily basis, an emotional tax, just for being a fat person walking around the world?

It is not easy to be fat. You walk around and you notice people’s eyes resting on your arms/stomach/thighs, you notice how you are routinely left out of things, you notice the anxiety that you feel about participating in things that your thinner counterparts never think about: roller coasters, pedi-cabs, having sex with the lights on, ropes courses, climbing ladders, jumping up and down with glee on the second floor of a building, I mean, the list of my weight related anxieties goes on and on.

Yes, I work to love my body regardless of it’s size. Yes, I work to have that opinion of myself matter above all else. But that doesn’t mean that I live in a bubble. It doesn’t mean that I can escape how other people look at me, or the fact that I have to shop in specialty stores when I’m buying back to school clothing. Yes my body weight fluctuates pretty dramatically  - and yes people routinely tell me how great I look when I’m “thin.”

But the fact of the matter is – right now, in this country, if you aren’t thin, you are already paying a tax every time you leave your house. And, also? I’m unlikely to cause undue damage to your manicure chair, I’m pretty good at sitting quietly and making myself small, but thanks for the reminder.

Thoughts?

  • mary

    I don’t usually comment on blogs I read, but this post really moved me.

    “But the fact of the matter is – right now, in this country, if you aren’t thin, you are already paying a tax every time you leave your house. And, also? I’m unlikely to cause undue damage to your manicure chair, I’m pretty good at sitting quietly and making myself small, but thanks for the reminder.”

    How true! Thanks for your insightful blog.

  • http://www.110pounds.com Lisa

    I heard the clip of the women telling their sides of the story. I was really offended by the prejudice against the obese woman. I think charging an extra $5 is ridiculous and insulting and I’d spread the word that people shouldn’t go to that salon. That’s just bad business.
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  • http://momtilyoudrop.blogspot.com/ Beth

    I propose we tax people who have the audacity to be such insensitive jerks. For simplicity’s sake, let’s call it the “A-hole Tax”.

    I sure wouldn’t have to work so hard for a living anymore, now would I?
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  • http://jennifers-story.blogspot.com/ Jenn

    I almost cried when I read this and continue to shake my head in disbelief. So awful and heartbreaking as well.
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  • http://brightsidedweller.blogspot.com/ Chelsea (bright_sided)

    That tax is ridiculous and discriminatory. Your response here gets several nods and internal “hell yeah”s from me!
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  • JulieK

    As always, so beautifully said. Thank you for articulating those thoughts I’ve never had the courage to say.

  • Shannon

    Ridiculous! And so embarrassing! I can not believe some people’s insensitivity. Thank you for commenting and I also love the last paragraph, so true. You’re so good and articulating so many of my thoughts and feelings.

  • http://www.inspirationalforwomen.com Andrea

    Your last line was right on the mark. This is just another example of the many ways women are reminded to be quiet and to make ourselves small. Don’t me too intelligent lest you intimidate a man, don’t voice your opinions too loudly unless they agree with the current order of things, don’t take up too much physical space lest you are seen and must be acknowledged, don’t express your sexuality too much unless you are thin and then you are seen as solely as a sexual object and the list could go on.

    To be a women is to live large, no matter your size.

    Andrea
    http://www.inspirationalforwomen.com
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  • http://www.healthforthewholeself.com Katie @ Health for the Whole Self

    I find this heart breaking. This would never be acceptable (and rightfully not) if the case were based on race or gender or age or sexual orientation or whatever, so why should it be acceptable based on size? It’s simply not right.
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  • http://kidsarealrightto.blogspot.com/ karengreeners

    Ugh. Disgusting. Applying an arbitrary, discriminatory tax on a service is not ok. Not having read the original post in its entirety, I wonder if any further action was taken. Writing about the incident is powerful, but so is reporting the salon to a better business bureau or local politician. Or news outlet.
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  • Cherry Woodburn

    I’m thinking more about you because your words were so real and caused a visceral response in me. I’m not heavy but for other reasons have tried to make myself samll and invisible. Horrible feeling. I’m sorry that you, and the woman at the nail salon, have to go thru that and stares etc. Cherry

  • Other Beth

    That’s a disgusting way to treat people. It never fails to amaze me how many businesses think they can treat people badly while simultaneously asking them for money. Some people are just incapable of empathy or grace towards their fellow man.

    I’m with the Beth-that-isn’t-me on the A-hole tax.

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  • http://Thebingediary.blogspot.com The Binge Diary

    I saw this story and was shocked. Loved your response and your take on the situation! You are so right!
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